I get mad and frustrated with Ron because he just wants more and more money all the time. Ron needs a job to support his habits. I had a summer job at 15. I was washing dishes and I only was getting paid like 100 dollars every two weeks which is not enough to support my lifestyle. Basically after four weeks of working there I quit ’cause I got tired of being told what to do. My son Ronald, he tries to sneak little ways to get more money. Like if he takes out the trash or tidying up around the house, he feel as though he gotta be paid extra for each individual thing. Oh you need to pay me for this, you need to pay me for that. I do laugh because it’s like why do I have to pay you to do your chores? Now Ronald says he uses retail therapy to make himself better because his mom is always at work. But is he willing to take a smaller allowance or no allowance so she doesn’t have to work as much? No I’m not. She’s gonna work more to raise my allowance. Ain’t nothing wrong with that. When you do graduate high school at the end of the year, your allowance will be cut off. Oh no, oh no. You’re gonna have to work
oh no, oh no no. (audience applauding)
I don’t know why you all clapping. No, no. That’s not gonna happen. I can’t. Let me ask you something. You’re living in a small bedroom in your house and he’s in the master suite. Who pays for this house? I do. But you put him in the master suite and you go down the hall and live in the smaller bedroom. Why is that? What did you say to yourself to make that okay? Well, I gave him the bigger room because he has a lot more clothes than I do. I just let him take the bigger room with all his clothes and I took the smaller room. And my question is why? I don’t know Dr. Phil
‘Cause I’m the king. I just need help with re parenting as far as this whole situation with Ron. Oh help’s here. Yeah, help’s here. I really do
Oh help is here. Okay. Yeah, help is here. You know he’s been writing in, actually. He wrote to me on March 3 of this year. He says, “My mom thinks I have a spending and attitude problem. I want her to stop picking on me. I feel like she doesn’t want me to have a normal teenage life. Every time I try to go out with my friends she always wants to know where I’m going and who I’m going with.” Yes. “I just want Dr. Phil to talk to my mom and get us on better terms as far as our relationship and see if he can get my allowance raised.” No, no, it’s gonna happen
Allowance is not gonna happen, and I feel as though we would have a better relationship if he can learn to save money more and spend less. And we do normal things like a family like go out to the movies, dinner. I can spend more time with him. He wrote the next month and he says, “I live with my mom and my little sister.” And he says, “I want to help and stop this drama and to make my mom raise my allowance.” He wrote in June, says, “I went shopping with my friends and I went to the Gucci store and bought a pair of $500 shoes and she got mad.” Yes, his spending is out of control. “I also feel like my allowance should be raised because $400 every two weeks is not cutting it.” It’s not. “She thinks she can control me and the way I spend my money.” Yeah, my money. Once she give me my allowance that’s my money. I get to do
That’s right whatever I want with it.
Once she gives it to you, it’s yours. Once you give it to him it’s his. Yes. Until you give it to him, it’s yours. Yes. (audience applauding) Don’t clap, don’t clap. ‘Cause here’s how much money you have. You get your allowance at her discretion. The woman you send down the hall to live in a small bedroom. Yeah, that’s right. She can cut it off, she can turn it on. She can take it down.
No, that’s not gonna happen. Yes I can. ‘Cause your credit card will end up missing so… I’m sorry? Her credit card will end up missing. He stole my credit card and charged up three to 400 dollars. You know there’s a term that describes that behavior. It’s called felony. Yes. (audience applauding)